Every mom, newbie or old pro, knows her baby is the number one priority. At least that’s what society tells us. Everything from film to television to social media tells women that once they become mothers, they are to wear their unkempt hair and blood-shot eyes as a badge of motherhood pride. We’re supposed to be tired, selfless, angels who never complain about performing the same endless tasks without ceasing.
But guess what? That’s not reality. The reality is that yes, we get to a point where we don’t care if there’s a little spit up on our shirt, but we also know that we need a break every now and then, too. I’m not suggesting you put in earplugs and take a bubble bath while your baby cries in the other room. I’m suggesting we all stop pretending to be robots that are capable of indefinitely living on no sleep and able to do everything without help or support. After all, even robots break down.
So here are some of the reasons I think we should start a new trend of unapologetically taking care of ourselves so that we can continue being the awesome mothers we already are. And just for fun, all the gifs are of Leslie Knope from Parks & Rec because why not?
It Helps You Compartmentalize
Sometimes, when you’re knee-deep in dirty onesies and your hands are full or drooly toys, you can get overwhelmed and your to do list can seem insurmountable.
Enjoying a nice cup of tea for a moment allows you to take a step back and look at the problem with a fresh pair of eyes. A little breather can make any to do list less Mt. Everest-y and more pitcher’s mound-ish.
It Lets You See Your Child Differently
When you are with your baby 24/7, life can become a routine. Feed the baby, change the baby, play with the baby, calm the baby, repeat. Did I mention life has no pause button?
Even a little time apart can put your baby in a new light. All of a sudden it’s not a routine you have to keep up with; you get to watch this funny little human grow up right in front of your eyes.
It Clears Your Head
This one is a no-brainer, no pun intended. When you’re running around worrying about doing the laundry, taking care of the baby, and running errands, you can easily become frazzled.
Even meditating for fifteen minutes can give you time to clear your head of any fears or worry and be able to face the day recharged.
It Extinguishes Anger
We all get angry, don’t lie. Whether your baby soiled his clothes for the umpteenth time or your partner forgot to clean the bottles, even the littlest things can cause you to see red when running on little sleep and a fried brain.
Stepping away from the situation can put things into perspective and calm you down. You may even laugh about whatever it was that initially got you grumpy in the first place!
It Can Make Your Partner Appreciate You More
You know that saying, “A pictures is worth a thousand words,” right? Well thirty minutes with a fussy baby is worth a million words. You can tell your partner a hundred different ways about what all goes into your day and that the baby isn’t always a perfect little angel. But…
Some one-on-one time will show your partner just how hard you work while taking care of the baby, and I bet you will be more appreciated.
So go on ladies, it’s time to do away with the guilt and the fear of judgement. After all, if you don’t take care of yourself, then you can’t take care of your baby.